Don't Get Along With In-Laws
Tue, 09/15/2009 - 00:48
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I've been married for 9 years and I still don't have a relationship with my mother-in-law. The other day I went to the eye doctors and she came over after I left to help my husband watch our kids. When I came back, she got up off the couch and said that she had to leave. I told her don't leave just because I came back. She has never really liked me and I'm not even sure why because I've done nothing to her. I would love to go shopping with her and have her come over when my husband is at work so she can see the kids.
Our relationship is causing trouble with my husband and I because he wants to take his mom's side and not mine. How do I get her to treat me like a human being?
Do you know why she dislikes you so much? Maybe that is the place to start. Figure out why she acts this way towards you. If it's just because you married her favorite son and she things that no one can possibly take care of him as well as she did, there may not be much hope.
It is hard for a mother to think anyone is good enough for her son, especially if they are close. I would take the first step and invite your mother in law out for an afternoon of shopping and maybe lunch. Once she gets to know you better maybe she will feel more comfortable with you.
You know I'm not really sure why she doesn't like me. She tells my husband that she likes me but then she does stuff that makes me think she doesn't. I have asked her to come with me to my kids school events and she just tells me she is busy but then goes with my sister-in-law to her kids events. I have been nothing but nice to her but just feel that cold shoulder every time I am around her.
It could be her problem and not your problem. It is not your responsibility to make everyone happy. Your duty is taking care of your own family (I mean your husband and your kids) and making them happy.