Eloping when you have Children
Tue, 07/07/2009 - 17:27
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I found that when you elope and when there are children involved from previous marriages it causes resentment among the children, they feel slighted and left out.
It's still a wedding even though you are eloping and you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in! If it's on a beach, your future hubby could wear a pair of chinos and a white/ivory shirt and you could wear a white or ivory sun dress. I agree a beach type area would be a beautiful casual, yet romantic spot, but be sure to check into marriage license requirements for wherever you choose to go as there may be residency requirements (unless of course it's Vegas, which may not be a bad plan as there are tons of things to do there for the whole family).
I think if there are children from another marriage and you decide to elope, you should bring the children with you and include then in the ceremony.
I agree with you antkmom. I know people who've eloped and brought parents, siblings and kids along. Sometimes eloping doesn't mean sneaking away, but just avoiding the crowd and all the expectations.
Elope merely means to run away. More specifically, elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in sudden and secretive fashion.So having children and eloping , leads much problem in the society.....in future .So it is not advisable.
Just make sure you have everything arranged beforehand. You can have whomever there that you like, ....then do the elopement..........
How to include children in your wedding ceremony has much to do with the children
themselves. Young Flower Girls and Ring Bearers are the most precious little things on two
legs. But understand that they are wild cards in the deck, who usually perform pretty close to
task with the little deviations in plan being usually well received.
What could be the advantages of eloping? If you have kids then, you shouldn't do that. You should be a role model to them and focus with what you already have. If you would decide on something, it would only be proper to talk and consider what your children would say.
While I think that it's a great idea to include children in the wedding, I disagree that it causes ''problems'' in the society. What kind of problems would that possibly cause? We are talking about two adults who decide to go off and get married. I'd like to think that they know what they are doing and it is not up to anyone to decide for them whether or not they should involve the children. If the parents are responsible enough to explain to their kids why they went ahead with it, I don't see why it should bother the children either.
Are the children adult children, or small children? If they're small children, then they should definitely be involved. If they're adult children and you're older, perhaps you can get away with a small, quiet wedding.
Eloping doesn't need to mean that you get married all by yourself. It could mean that you and your children head off on vacation together and you happen to get married while you're at it. You just remove all of the fuss of inviting everyone else!