Honeymoon - family nightmare *RANT* & your opinions wanted
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So we're getting married this August and going on honeymoon to the far east (two islands in Indonesia & Singapore). We spent ages with the travel agent constructing a really great itinerary, boutique hotels, trips etc and mixture of city, beach and mountains. We can't wait.
I'm really excited. I'm not normally a luxury hotel kinda guy - preferring laid back beach style - but for obvious reasons a honeymoon is different, very special and utterly symbolic. It's not "Just a holiday"
BUT, the black cloud on the horizon is that my fiancee's insensitive, psycho and frankly unbelievable sister (and her bf) are taking 4 months travelling in before our wedding and are going to the VERY SAME LOCATION AS OUR HONEYMOON only a matter of weeks before we are there ourselves!!!
I for one think this is TOTALLY out of order. She is going there on a whim because she "read a self-help book" and she can't understand we're upset and hurt they haven't thought how we will feel about them going there. She is even saying things like "if you don't want us to go, you MUST say" and her bf is saying things like "god, it's not like they own the world" - only someone with cruel intentions would behave like that! We're going to be at our wedding, ready to jet off but with the wind taken out of our sails because it no longer holds that special allure.
In addition - they have made NO promises not to go to the boutique hotels we're staying at!!! Why would she do that other than to be cruel? I know we don't OWN the world, but come on - there are some things are that kind of out of bounds, like your best friend getting off with your ex - it's just completely out of order.
EVERYONE i've spoken to agrees - and I don't normally get angry about stuff like this - but how would you guys feel if THE holiday of a lifetime was being impinged on by an insensitive family member or friend?!
Opinions please!!
hi and welcome to the forum!
i understand totally what you mean. its like once we decided we were getting married so did my best friends(my bridesmaids) sister for the week b4 us. then she wanted to have the reception at the same place as us then we sed as we wont be able to afford the honeymoon this yr we was going to book it to go to egypt next sept and then funnily enuf they beat us to it and booked to go to the exact same place this coming feb. bu luckly we hadnt booked it yet so we have booked and amazing transatlantic cruise so just hope no one muscles in on that now lol. i dont know if its just us lot being highly sensitive at the mo but then agen i think i would feel the same if i told a family member or friend that i was going on a normal holiday somewhere that i hadnt been b4 and they then booked to go to that exact same plac b4 me id still be abit miffed! lol rant over haha x
Ouch! That sure is a night mare. Even I agree with you. That is cruel. I mean whoa! Why not put their place in yours right? I think anyone who would be in this situation would really be angry, even mad.
Hi John,
I agree, totally out of order. I can see how this would spoli things for you.
Is this woman and her boyfriend always so unthoughtful?