Remember, they are going to be around for a long time....
Fri, 06/26/2009 - 14:19
.jpg "antkmom's picture"){kind=avatar}
When I was married, my soon to be mother in law told my soon to be husband that if we got married in my church, she would not attend the wedding!!!
My husband made a bad decision by telling me this and I will never forget it. I did give in and we were married in her church.
Since then, I find it very hard to even like my mother in law. That being said, I know the importance of being respectful to her for my husbands sake.
So one word of advice~ suck it up and try to be nice to your soon to be in laws, even if you don't care for them. It makes life much easier.
Some mother's forget that when their sons grow up, they have their own lives to live. Some never learn to let go.
When I was married, my soon to be mother in law told my soon to be husband that if we got married in my church, she would not attend the wedding!!!
My husband made a bad decision by telling me this and I will never forget it. I did give in and we were married in her church.
Since then, I find it very hard to even like my mother in law. That being said, I know the importance of being respectful to her for my husbands sake.
So one word of advice~ suck it up and try to be nice to your soon to be in laws, even if you don't care for them. It makes life much easier.
Ouch! That must have been a terrible relationship. As for me, its gonna be my wedding and not my mother in law so I think I have the right to choose where to ger married. If she doesn't like it and don't want to go just because her wish was not granted, then might as well leave her like that or kill her for being such a crybaby. Its not like she should be followed. Duh??? As if its her wedding. That's just me though.
Some mother's forget that when their sons grow up, they have their own lives to live. Some never learn to let go.
Yeah. And I don't know to others, but to me, that just sucks.
I agree that in planning your wedding both parents must be there in suggesting their thoughts and ideas, but it doesn't mean that you need to follow what they want. In my case I (the bride) must give a decision where I wanted to be blessed and it's absolutely in my church.
I agree with you about remaining respectful towards our in-laws part but I am not going to suck anything up just because they are my husband's parents. I'd like to think that I am mature enough to make my own decisions and I don't allow people butting into my business where they have no saying in it. I'd rather do what I like than to go with someone else's whim and hold a grudge afterwards...