Wondering when
Mon, 06/29/2009 - 14:19
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We talk about it often, but I am not sure when it will happen. It's funny because I know that he is just to scared to ask me. We have been together for almost 4 years, and we live as if we were married. I know his family wants him to ask me, but he's a big chicken.
How long were you together before you became engaged? How long were you engaged for?
I'm not married either and we have lived together for 8 years. Here in NY there is no such thing as common law marriage. It's more me than him. I think we are fine just the way we are.
He asked when we got together about 1 year into our relationship. Not down on 1 knee, just hey do you think we should get married? Not yet I said. He then said well when you are ready, ask!
I think it's ok to not get married as long as you are both happy. If you really want it then ask him by all means.
You could always be the one to ask:)
I was with my husband for 3 1/2 yrs before we were engaged. Our engagement was for 1 1/2 yrs. We actually got married 5 yrs to the date that we started dating. Just easier for him to remember our anniversary!
That is funny Antk... easier for him to remember. I love it! Wow, that is a long engagement too (5 years). I should talk right, we have been together for over 9 years and I'm not married yet. No engagement either though.
don get .... married soon ... this life will be more enjoyfull than ur married life
If you think he is too chicken to ask you, then I think you should make a move for it. Make something that would make him remembr how much you love him and would make him realize that you can't go on like this forever and that he should ask you about it sooner.
"I'm not married either and we have lived together for 8 years. Here in NY there is no such thing as common law marriage. It's more me than him. I think we are fine just the way we are.
He asked when we got together about 1 year into our relationship. Not down on 1 knee, just hey do you think we should get married? Not yet I said. He then said well when you are ready, ask!
I think it's ok to not get married as long as you are both happy. If you really want it then ask him by all means."
You know, I think so too. Besides, what is marriage for anyway? To prove your love? I don't think so. There are many couples who are married but does not love each other.
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You could always be the one to ask:)
I was with my husband for 3 1/2 yrs before we were engaged. Our engagement was for 1 1/2 yrs. We actually got married 5 yrs to the date that we started dating. Just easier for him to remember our anniversary!"
Wow! That must have been a very fun relationship. So this man too that you're the on who asked him about it? Wow.
"That is funny Antk... easier for him to remember. I love it! Wow, that is a long engagement too (5 years). I should talk right, we have been together for over 9 years and I'm not married yet. No engagement either though."
Well, does the two of you have plans to get engaged or not?
"don get .... married soon ... this life will be more enjoyfull than ur married life"
What do you mean? Engagement?
If you think he is too chicken to ask you, then it's time for you to make your move. Put him in a situation where he will have no choice but to ask for it...
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You could always be the one to ask:)
I was with my husband for 3 1/2 yrs before we were engaged. Our engagement was for 1 1/2 yrs. We actually got married 5 yrs to the date that we started dating. Just easier for him to remember our anniversary!"
Wow! That must have been a very fun relationship. So this man too that you're the on who asked him about it? Wow.
No, he asked me. When he asked, he even gave me the wedding date. He had it all figured out in his mind. It was the first time that the date we started dating hit a Saturday, so he asked me to marry him 1 1/2 yrs away from when we were engaged. It gave me a long time to plan.
I agree with everyone else...you can ask him if he is too scared to ask you. He may be comfortable with the way things are and scared to change anything. It's difficult to change things when you are already living like you are married!
We dated just under a year and a half before we got engaged. Our wedding is set 7 1/2 months from the engagement, so we will have been together for 2 years when we get married.
I'm not married either and we have lived together for 8 years. Here in NY there is no such thing as common law marriage. It's more me than him. I think we are fine just the way we are.
He asked when we got together about 1 year into our relationship. Not down on 1 knee, just hey do you think we should get married? Not yet I said. He then said well when you are ready, ask!
I think it's ok to not get married as long as you are both happy. If you really want it then ask him by all means.
I definitely agree with you. Marriage has less of an impact now because most couples live together a long time before they actually talk about that. I've lived with my husband for about four years before we decided we would go ahead with it and like you, he didn't ask me in that traditional way either. I think it's pretty cheesy to be honest. But it's also true that the woman doesn't have to wait to be asked to get married - we are in the 21st century after all and everything is fair game, when you want something you ask for it and you might just get it...
I am a different person. I think the man should ask the woman. I know it probably sounds old fashion, but that is just the way I view things. I don't understand men sometimes. What is the difference between living together and being married? There really isn't more of a commitment.