Young & Confused
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I recently got married a year and a half ago. I was 23, and my husband was 21. We dated for 2 years before. And we decided to marry, now becuz of our relgions belifes we were not sexually active during the courtship. But the wedding came and went and we settled into marriage. But it was rocky, alot like the dating period. Fights and arguing. Not always... but regular. Now im the type of person to brush it off. But hes sensitive and awlays would leave for a while or the night and go to a friends, However never came and talked things out with me afterwards. So I assumed everything was ok.
Now he has left for good. He moved into his parents and wants the marriage to end. He says he cant take it and just wants out. I love my husband more then words can say. I want my marriage to work and I would do anything. However when we talk he says theres nothing i can do. Hes not listening to reason from me or others. Hes ignoring everyone and hiding out in his parents basement so to speak.
Hes played World of WarCraft consistantly throughout the marrige and just wasnt emotionaly connected. Im sad and hurt. I want to work it out and wondering if hes depressed....and possibly with time he'll come around? Hes been gone almost 2 months. Im still living in our home. I have not been contacting him at all. maybe only twice in the time hes been gone. Im giving him the space he needs. It just happend so fast.
Marriage can be very difficult and it seems as if your husband has given up. You can give him all the time and space he needs but you can’t guarantee he will eventually want the relationship to work. He could in 2 months, 10-20 years during a midlife crisis, or never. You just never know. Try to get counseling for both of you. If he won’t you should still go. I hope you are able to work things out.
To be honest, it sounds like it might be time to just end it. He isn't trying to talk to you which is a problem and shows his immaturity. Then again he is pretty young to be married.
Perhaps it's time to move on and find someone who will listen to you, be more honest and open in the relationship, and provide the love you need.
Good luck!
I am so sorry to hear that. It seems that he is too young and not mature enough to get married. I worry continuing the marriage will just give both you more pain.